Sharing too many laughs can just do the trick. I wouldn’t want him to be video chatting regularly, not even once in a while. No. Hell, no. It’s too personal.
I wonder what would I do if I find out my boyfriend regularly talks on video chats with his female friends. Even if they are his best friends, and there are no potential threats of cheating, I would still be against it. I’m a firm believer of not playing with fire, and you know what?
Maybe if you’re both single, I wouldn’t make such a big fuss about it. But you see, this friend of mine is chatting with a female friend who already has a boyfriend.
Of course, there are also some people who say otherwise. Another male friend, 20, says, “I am used to video chat with a female friend all the time. It’s not a big deal.”
You see? I’m on the right track.
I was asking another friend, male, 20, about this matter and he says this without even skipping a beat, “Well, if it’s one on one I don’t think it’s okay. Because you normally do video chat at home, right? That’s a private place, and you will do a private conversation.”
Well, I’m also a believer of there is , so…
Apparently, both my male friend and I thought that there is something ‘fishy’ with video chatting with a friend of opposite sex. It signifies there is something more than just friendship.
“It’s more justifiable when both parties are single. But if one of them is in a relationship, it’s a big no. I wouldn’t like my girlfriend to be video chatting with some random guy…” he said.
Trying to get some support, I asked my male friend (who has a girlfriend) of what he thought about video chatting with opposite sex.
She then tried to convince me that there is nothing between them, again.
“I wouldn’t talk with a guy through a video chat, moreover for hours – chatting, talking, laughing, or sharing about our personal issues and stories. By listening to your stories alone, I personally think that he’s interested in you,” I said.
Well, it’s a free country.
“Is there something wrong with video chatting with a friend of opposite sex?” she asked, obviously finding our views very weird.
The thought on this matter came a few months ago when the three of us, a male friend, a female friend, and I, were having lunch together after lecture. The female friend told us stories that she just had this video chat with her male friend who lives in London. Almost instinctively, without really looking at each other, my male friend and I said, “Awwwww,” in unison, thinking there must be something behind that. Yet she insisted that they are just friends.
To this day, I never actually had a video chat with the opposite sex who’s just a friend. I would feel anxious, agitated even – seeing his face and listening to his voice while knowing that he only has me in front of his eyes (it’s not like I can look at the scenery or comment on other people’s food orders or something like that) make me uncomfortable.
For me, video chat is a very intimate way of conversing with another. It’s even more intimate than going out just the two of you. Why? Going out is public. Talking to a friend, in front of your computer screen, in your bedroom, with your headset, is very… intimate.
I rarely do a video chat with my friends. With a partner is an entirely different case, but with friends? Almost never.
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Video chatting with friends of opposite sex: yay or nay? | Marcella Purnama
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